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Dealing with frustration

Do you get frustrated in the day and just want to roar?

Answer is you can but only in a safe environment. You actually need to also as it is unsafe not to process your emotions.

What I want you to do is forgive people 70 times 7 like Jesus said i.e. He forgave us a massive debt so why should we not forgive our enemies their small debt. This is the parable of the unjust manager. Please read it and understand it.

What I want you to do when you get home though is process your emotions of frustration. A few ideas:

• Pop a balloon. Have it ready blown up the day before.
• Have a pile of old junk in your yard or spare room and start destroying it lol. N.B; be careful of sharps and be responsible for any other family members. Notify them first and choose if this is the best option unless you live alone.
• Listen to Christian heavy metal. Seventh day slumber is good.
• Hold your hands to your face or go under water in the bath (be responsible again please) and make the silliest faces you can that you would not dare make in the day.
• Think of something sad in your life so that you can cry. Crying is a massive help.
• Think of something that will give you a genuine belly laugh. A DVD or some other media, maybe your imagination if you are good at that. Limit the imagination though otherwise your brain will have trouble breaking down the dopamine and you will feel rough.
• Imagination is good if you are homeless. Friend don’t drink and do drugs, you are loved. Get to a church and find one of the non-plastic people who actually give a monkeys. They exist, just look hard. You need the Lord if you are homeless and work clever not hard.
• Vent to someone that you trust. Phone someone to vent to if you are alone.
• Any other ideas that are safe, responsible and work that you can think of.

A book named “The chimp paradox” by Professor Steven Peters suggests that we need to exercise our inner chimp (our emotional part) in a safe and private environment, and then box it calmly by talking to it with our inner human. Then give the chimp a banana as a reward e.g. a cup of tea. We manage our inner chimp by nurturing it.

The above might actually be the science behind the sin inside us therefore using this book with the bible as our main book to overule it could be a game changer.

Proverbs 20:3 “It is an honor for a person to keep aloof from strife…”

Shaaaalom, grrrr! lol

By jb00000

Mature evangelical protestant Christian who loves loving people with wisdom in action.

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